So.... giving this a try... a lot of sitting around waiting (meaning you do something... come back in a few hours)... Although I have already been attacked... and then some idiot is like "Donate more wood to the lumber yard or I will attack you"... and I am like "Dude, I just started and have been attacked twice... so screw you."
So who knows... one guy on my island reached out and was friendly... but right now I am still trying to figure out the best approach to building the colony.. and the sad part is you can't pay money to make it go faster... I totally would buy things to make this game run faster... missed opportunity there. :)